Saturday, June 23, 2012
Back in the Bun!
For those of you who visit our corner frequently you will know that I often talk about the adventures of my kids as well. This post will be no different so if you don't want to read about mama drama than move on to a different post.
If you had asked my daughter two years ago(and well any year before that) what she wanted to be when she grew up she would have said an actress. If you had asked her last she would have specifically said not an actress. What changed?
A bad experience at a dance school. A bad comment regarding Cloudy's body made by an instructor to a parent. How did Cloudy find out?
She was standing behind the instructor and they didn't know it. Now that wasn't the only thing that had happened that year, but that was the reason Cloudy went from taking eight dance classes to only classes her dad taught. In an attempt to save her love for dance she tried out for a production by Ballet Nebraska. The only problem is this company was loathed by the director of our school due to personal conflicts. Once she found out my husband no longer taught at her school. Of course those weren't the reasons stated but everyone in the Omaha dance community knows they were. Cloudy finished the production and hasn't danced all year in fact she has insistently refused to do so.
Last month we stopped to get sno cones and they had just opened a new dance school over by it. I jokingly asked Cloudy if she wanted to check it out. I was surprised when she said yes, so we went inside. Where is she today?
She is trying out for a production they are doing! She has a list of other things she wants to do with Ballet Nebraska. If you had asked me a year ago if I thought she ever would have danced again I would have said no. All I know is a young women who was so bitter at people she trusted and had to watch those people do bad things to her family finally realized that the only person she was hurting was herself. What have I learned from this that I need to pass on?
1. Be careful who you trust to teach your kids. And when you think you are starting to trust them...make sure you really do!
2. Back your children up! It's their dream and as their parent you should be their biggest supporters.
3. If they want to give up on it(and this was hard for me)sometimes you have to let them. Don't push it, because sometimes they will realize how much they loved it.
Special thanks to all the people who supported Cloudy through that time and into her new endeavors!